ANGRY WOMAN SYNDROME .... GET RID OF HER NOW!!!!

You ever met someone or know of someone, in this case, a woman, who is ALWAYS angry or negative about EVERYTHING?  I know someone like that and personally, it's sad.  Sad for them and those who are hugely affected by their anger.

Case 101 ANGRY WOMAN: ..... y'all almost work my last nerves, but I love you.  Whatever that man, parents, kids, boss, did to you, don't do for you, would do for you but can't, whatever the case may be, it's YOU that is the cause of YOUR stress as well as YOUR happiness NOT them.  Now you think every man is a liar, cheater or no one can change their ways cause yo' baby daddy made mistakes and now the world isn't deemed perfect until you get revenge.

Felicia's tough love says, GET OVER YOURSELF & MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.  Your power of forgiveness molds how you will spend your days here on Earth.  Men have lied and cheated on me and I've done the same to them.  Hurt people hurt people.  But I made a promise to God, myself and my children that no one will ever again, have that much power and negative influence over my life.

My clients that I interact with mostly all come from hurting places and they have legitimate reasons why they are so hurt.  My bottom line question to them is:  How long are you gonna be hurt?  I'm all for understanding someone close to you hurt you but you can't stay in that hurt stage forever.  You have to forgive and move on from it.  Always bringing up what they did to you 5 years ago, 10 years ago, hell, even 5 minutes ago, can keep you from your next blessings.

Women, there's nothing attractive about a bitter woman.  Men like a versatile woman.  That can direct the boardroom, house and bedroom.  What man you know wants to sit around a woman angry and lifeless ALL the time?  Not just in intimate relationships but also business relationships, friendships, etc.  I am a very sociable person and it's not of my best interest to be around negative people.  I have too much POSITIVE reinforcements and investors in my life, business, family and etc to be camped around negative people.

At the end of a hard days work or week, you want to share with people who believe in you, support you, challenge you to move yourself higher in your perspective field and who can enjoy your success with you.  My partner is a WONDERFUL example of that, as well as I am to his dreams.  Even in times of disagreements we RESPECT each others thoughts, expertise and experience in the fields and projects that we are into at the moments.  EVERYONE HAS TO START FROM SOMEWHERE.

What bothers me the most are the angry women that sit around and talk negative about everybody and point their noses down at people but have yet, to make any contributions to society to help anyone else out.  I love how humble I am NOW because I was always a cocky lil thing which got me NO WHERE that I wanted to be.  It took some life experiences to turn myself down a notch and praise the Lord it happen quickly.  These women are not mad at their target that lies on the surface they are angry at something that lies much deeper than that.

Women will unite to tear another woman down in a heartbeat.  That's sad, when now women have the most opportunities, highest paying income in their homes, etc.  I've never been the type to bad mouth someone else because they have something I might want or need.  I posted on Instagram  that, talking negative about some one else's dreams will NEVER get your executed.  Speak life not death and get on with YOUR life and stop worrying about others!!!!

I'm so thankful that when I decided to go into business for myself and the communities of women I serve, it wasn't at the downfall of another woman dreams being dismissed.  I am very humble to know and see how my actions motivate others to live out their dreams and accomplish their goals.  It's a lot of hard work and any POSITIVE things going on that I can help out with, call me up.  I can speak on these things now because I was at some point that bitter and angry woman and my life was so lacking living it to my full potential.  People didn't want to be around me longer than 5 minutes and now a days, you wouldn't even know that time exists before.  We all make mistakes, we all get angry but just don't stay angry and/or keep making the same mistakes.

I know this is a different writing style that you are used to from me but I hope some seeds of healing have been placed in your hearts and minds to give you a NEW life just as I have.

Walk by FAITH not by SIGHT

My typical morning ritual of reading my devotionals and just spending a few quiet minutes with God, before the hustles and bustles of my work day, I came across this scripture:

2 Corinthians 5:7

For we walk by faith, not by sight.

This instantly reminded me of how I almost always look at plans I have personally and professionally and never the capital or resources I need up front.  I know now that when God gives me His vision of a task He wants me to carry out, He always provide the necessary tools I need.  When I say tools, I mean the financial resources, volunteers, venues, supplies, equipment, whatever it is that is needed, He provides for me.

I want to tell you that it's a simple as that and that I wait on the Lord to fight all of my battles.  Chile please, I stress over events, registrations and the likes of the work I do and the ways I live like most folks, but my faith sustains me not to WORRY about a single thing.  Now that takes some spiritual discipline.  It's easier for us to believe what we can actually see rather than claiming and speaking of things into existence.  I once had a dream that I would be ministering to a multitude of people and once I shared that dream, most people said that in that dream, God had called me into the ministry to become a pastor.  I knew that wasn't the exact details of that particular dream.  I knew He called me to be a motivational speaker and that I would heal His lands through the words of encouragement, empowerment and comfort that the Holy Spirit placed inside of me.  This dream happened before an y books I've published, workshops I've facilitated and any motivational speaking engagements I've booked.  The sight that you see now in my life is the results of my faith, long ago of that dream I had.  I prayed and decreed that God said it and showed me in that dream His purpose for me and now I have the luxury of living a purposed fill life, currently.

A lot of victims of domestic violence want to know what they will be getting themselves into if they exit that toxic relationship.  They want to know where their gonna live, how to feed their children, get income to provide for them, etc.  They want all of that to be CONFIRMED before they take one step forward to living a new life.  It never once crosses their mind that all God wants is for them to take ONE step over their line of fears, worry and doubts and TRUST HIM to provide of their needs after they walk by faith and not by what their immediate sight, sees.

When I left my marriage, I couldn't tell you what was to happen next but the comfort I did have was that my faith said whatever lies ahead for ME is for ME!  Yes I cried some nights because I was broke, brokenhearted, confused, not enough education for certain positions that I knew I could do..... oh but God wiped those tears and put me in a position that has lead to plenty of NEW opportunities and blessings.

If you're not a victim of domestic violence and you're trying to start your own business, write a book or anything that you don't see happening in the natural, now, walk by faith and not by sight and watch God work wonders in your favor in your life.  I'm a witness for what God does if you pray without ceasing and believing and walking into what you've prayed for even BEFORE it happens.


Journal entry:  What are you believing God for?  Until manifestation, what is your faith like on that matter?  Be specific in your prayer and petitions to God with thanksgiving in your heart NOW because you walk by faith and not by sight.

"Do You Love Me?"

While the absence of my writing have been obvious to some people including myself, God has never let my pen stay away for too long from me.  The words or question He asked me was, "Do you love Me?"  I knew instantly that question wasn't necessarily for me (yes, I love the Lord, daily and it didn't happen over night).  That question was for someone out there who is feeling down or scared to move towards a new beginning because they've left behind a loved one to seek a better life for themselves, a toxic relationship, a bad habit, a job that defined their lifestyle, a doctor's diagnosis of the end for them as they know it.  If you love the Lord like I do, you know that no matter what you see or don't see in front of you, He will provide ALL of your needs.  Not some of them but ALL of them.  I was delirious I believe this past weekend, I'm blaming the enemy and the meds that I was taking due to a severe toothache (fractured, split and abscess)..... OUCH!!! The enemy had me doubting EVERYTHING but the faith of a muster seed that I have knew it was him (the enemy) and his tricks and I diverted my energy and thoughts ASAP.  Until a dear friend pointed it out, I read a 1,000 books but never once picked up the Bible to see what the Lord had to say about my doubts.  Yes I read my daily devotionals with scriptures attached to them.  But I haven't nestled up under a blanket and got lost in the Bible for hours like I would reading a good Toni Morrison book.  Oh but thy faithfulness still spoke to me and asked, "Do you love Me?"  See to love someone is to have an open heart, mind, body and soul experience with someone else. God was asking me to give to Him the love that is due to Him just as I do and better than I love my children, family, boyfriend, students and anyone else that I show an unexplainable amount of love to.  His words said, "If you love me, why haven't I heard from you about the doubts you're having?"  Just as a child that has done something wrong, I instantly felt convicted.  A conviction of love not of condemnation.  You see people will write you off once you've done something wrong, but God NEVER will.  I felt the power of God show up in my life, although I haven't seen the results of my prayers, I know they are headed my way.

I have a coworker that always affirm to me that when you do right, things always have to work out for you.  I'm gonna stretch that statement and affirm and say that when you love the Lord with all thy heart and with all thy mind and with all thy soul...... Jesus is on the mainline and headed your way!

Ask yourself, do you love the Lord?  Whatever your answer is currently at this moment, He will help you and He has NEVER turned his back on you.  I think that my faith is so strong in the Lord that to even make the grounds I walk on, even tremble, the enemy almost has to take my life to make his presence known.  The last three days in February was a blessing in disguise.  I was given a house to move in by my sister for me and my family to live in.  So I had THREE days to move out of the "Bulls room", paint the famous red wall back white in the condo, rent a truck, find some help to move and once that was ACCOMPLISHED, the gas couldn't get turned on because the the squatter that was living RENT FREE there, broke the pipelines (we didn't know this) from hooking the water line illegally and the basement was flooded.  The technician could not turn on the gas and heat which made the house for us unlivable at that moment.  Now I was in attack mode now against the devil.  So my mind says, I've been living in my condo for over a year, call myself moving out and into a house and to basically be homeless cause now me and my family are at my sister house.  Oh there was a bunch of curse words to be inserted there.  BUT GOD...... stepped in and said, "Do you love Me?  Do you trust Me?"  I knew the answers to those questions were a big fat "YES."  But I wasn't walking in my answers.  Since, the city of Chicago water management has come out, a plumber, others who have skills in this area to lend a helping hand and I promise you I know the answer to this problem or setback for a setup by God is that He has the final say on this.  I've taken my hands and mind off it.  I started thanking him for providing a ram in the bush (my sister) for even allowing us to stay with her in her home.  I start praising God for allowing the problem to happen BEFORE we actually lived and slept there.  I started praising God that the renovations that are needed for the house from the squatter living there for years are MINOR!!! Oh, I really pissed the enemy off........ that sucker snatched my voice and throat days later all in one day, guess he said, "That'll shut her up with all of that praising God."


But God.........

Said to the enemy (I feel like), "She loves me, watch this, even as my servant Job was tested and showed himself approved of the love and favor of God, so will she."  I became aware of the enemies plan and put on my full armor of God.  I couldn't praise out loud, but you bet your fancies I was praising him in my mind and heart.  Tears flowed every day because I couldn't talk, eat, drink liquids..... NOTHING!  That was a fast even without being planned.  Everytime I tried to speak a word the enemy held it but that lasted for so long.  I just got up to write after days of lying down because God said to me, "Get up, take your mat up and write."  The devil may have physically stolen my voice for a little while but my love for God kept me in perfect peace throughout the storms of life that's all around me.  I couldn't speak but God spoke for me, I believe on behalf of my love for Him.  I'm sitting here with an abled body and mind and today I spoke out against the plans of the enemy.  Go away Satan, you no longer have authority of my voice, God does and he instantly had to flee from me.  Will he return, sure, that's his job but I am grounded in my love for God and my faith is unmoveable.

Whatever you are facing today, take up your mat of fear, pity, depression, questions, doubts and hand over to the God that you love and better get to trusting daily that provides for you, comforts you, blesses you and not only you but anyone connected to you.  Ain't God good?  I LOVE HIM...........

I Got Flowers Today (Poem by Paulette Kelly)

Dedicated to Helping Hurt and Abused Women
JESUS is the Answer.

Grace Ministry I GOT FLOWERS TODAY

I Got Flowers Today I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because he sent me flowers today.I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry. Because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry. Because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers...today. By Paulette Kelly © Copyright 1992 Paulette Kelly All Rights Reserved A WOMAN IS BEATEN EVERY 15 SECONDS IN THE US 4 MILLION WOMEN SEEK MEDICAL ATTENTION EACH YEAR FROM ABUSE IN THE US 4000 DIE EACH YEAR IN THE US STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TODAY!!! DO NOT TOLERATE IT!!!!!

"LOVE"

Most of us have heard of the word "love" before....one or two of us may have fell in "love" before..... a multitude of us have experienced being hurt by "love" and a few us actually get to spend the rest of our lives with real "love"..... there's a story behind each one of those and we encourage you to share your stories with someone, in whatever platform you chose to help heal the broken hearts in our communities.

PHILIPPIANS 4:6 (KJV)

"Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.  And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."


This is one of my favorite scriptures just like most I'm sure, it really stood out to me this evening.  As I was scrolling through several social media sites this new year, the joys and sorrows I see is a mixture of feelings for me.  I put my rituals in gear whenever I'm writing a blog: heated the tea kettle, turned on my Kirk Franklin Pandora station, grabbed the laptop and said a small prayer, asking God to help me deliver a message to His people tonight who may be facing tough, challenging or NEW experiences in their lives.  Most people WANT new experiences, opportunities or success in their lives but they are not equipped to face the trials, rejections, lack of sleep, the pressures involved with success, sacrifices that are made (voluntarily or involuntarily) and various emotional traumas some of us experience headed up that success ladder.

The first part of that scripture says and warns us immediately, ..... "Be careful for nothing......"....... here, to me it's saying be careful not to stress over "nothing"(s) and ALL that you KNOW God can handle but with a sincere heart and if it's in His will for your life, ask God to deliver His blessings that you want, declare it and while you wait on God, He will keep your hearts and mind stayed on Jesus while you await the thing(s) that you asked of Him.  Yep, I know, easier said than done.  Most of us pray at the alter of heaven and as soon as we get up off of our bended knees, we began looking for signs and wonders of the Most High and rebuking the devil even out of the brooms in our house.  Y'all know I'm telling the truth.  Trust me, when I blog it's because I've been through it or is preaching to myself and hopefully helping you along the way as I share my thoughts.

Most of us pray for things that look nice on the surface but if God shall ever give us our desires, it'll blow up and down in turmoil because we'll be trying to get rid of it so fast.  I tell people that want to start a business, if you can't see yourself serving others first in some type of capacity then you CAN NOT be a LEADER.  I know a lot of potential writers who will never publish a book simply because of fear to make the first step..... which is, START WRITING or TYPING ....... SOMETHING!!!  They want the  final product which is the book published.  No researching of anything related to what their writing about.  Just the final product.  I am a living witness of pushing my fears to the side after I pray for something.  I don't have the money to do a lot of things up front but God reassures me so many times, "Just do what I ask you to do and I am blessing someone else, right now, to provide the resources you will need to carry out my vision." That's what that peace that passeth all understanding part means..... do your part and God has already done His and know that it shall be done.

I am a motivational speaker and inspiration to people who want to start from somewhere and improve their lives just as I did.  Everyday the devil tries to attack some area(s) of my life or he'll leave me alone for a period of time and guess what, when he shows up....he shows up.  But I'm so thankful that my faith exceeds any tricks he shows up with.  I learned to stop looking at what I don't see in the natural and claim what I want to see.  After I claim it, I reach out to others to help me and together, we help save the lives of others.  Times are hard and people are doing strange, illegal, sexual and other things for a few dollars to feed their families and live in a warm place.  How much stress could you take off of a single mother by volunteering to take her children to school and let her rest a little while longer before heading to work, help provide her with groceries, donate used clothes that you know you can't wear anymore (thank that extra scoop of ice cream or chocolate cake that you just had to have)?  The answer, a lot!!!!

Finally, when you pray, be thankful in advance for whatever blessings God sends into your life.  We pray for one thing and God will deliver a multitude of things that we would have never thought of to ask for ....hence, the reason why He is God who is omniscient which means He is an all knowing God.... you can believe that!!!

HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH TO TAKE?

You ever felt like everything came crashing down at the same damn time in your life?  One thing after another just keeps happening?  No matter how much you give of yourself, money and time the return is never worth the stress it took?  You get rid of one problem and lurking behind you was another problem, posted, waiting to make an entrance?  Here yee, here yee..... I have felt and feel that way too. You pray for peace, strength, prosperity and then the devil gets every foot soldier he owns to make sure your day is a living hell.  Oh, what about ALL of your ideas are GREAT, but no one pays attention to them or support your vision?  As Bishop T.D. Jakes would say, "get ready, get ready".....

How much is too much to take just for one person to endure?  JUST GIVE UP? This question/statement is like a ritual inside of your head but something tugs at your spirit and tells you to keep on keeping on.  Or how about that famous line, God won't put more on you than you can bare but baring it is impossible at this point.  Again, I can say all of this because I've lived it and lawd knows I think it too sometimes.  I take life in whatever forms I'm dealt.  I learn and live to see another day.  I stress over minors and majors but I'm comforted in knowing that in the remembrance of what God has done in the past for me, I'm guaranteed that He is ever present and will work things out for you.

I was listening to this song I attached (above) on Pandora and instantly my hands hit the keyboard yet again.  Instead of giving up I feel like you find a better way to deal with certain situations that for now, you have no control over.  Step out into victory and walk away from the traps of the enemy satan who repeatedly tests and try you and not knowing that the Master already has a plan for you.  When God has a plan, THAT'S IT and THAT'S ALL ....it shall be done.

The journey of your pain and frustrations tell a story.  A story that someday you will read and say, "wow, I did that?  I said that?  I went through that?  I helped that person?  I didn't give up?  The enemy should've taken me out then but God kept me?"  At this point, somebody should be shouting THANK YOU JESUS FOR KEEPING ME.  Think about the thoughts of deliverance, healing and pressing forward, joy, abundance and any other fruits that will be added to your life if you DON'T GIVE UP!

How much is too much to take for one person to endure?  Only you and God know that answer.  But look at your situation(s) and ask yourself, what can you do differently?  Because clearly the same things you've been doing is NOT working.  Sacrifices and a lot of hard work lies ahead for you if you are ready to step out on faith and trust God and not trust in your fears of failures and/or rejection from your family or peers.  Not everyone is gonna like what you do or what you have to say (trust me, no one knocks down my door to talk about domestic violence and women empowerment, thankfully I obey what God assigns me to do and continuously be blessed while doing it).  The key of it all to me is, whatever you do you should enjoy it, embrace it, make a return investment on it and society should be a better place to live in because of it.

Let's help one another live an abundant life, what do you do when you feel like too much has happened and you want to give up but you don't?  Someone out there needs to hear your ways of survival and empowering testimonies.


Lastly, I'll leave you with a another one of my favorite meditation songs when I feel like giving up: