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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ARTICLE FROM THE CHICAGO SUN-TIMES

Read the article below and let's discuss it afterwards:

CHARGE: Man out on bail tries to kill girlfriend

http://www.suntimes.com/mobile/3573259-463/wyatt-keane-police-girlfriend-kill.html

Where do I begin? This article was touching but somehow exposed triumph of the victim. Lover tries to kill her once, goes to jail, gets out and tries a second time. A lot of safety concerns come to my mind initially while reading this. He was inside of her apartment without there being a report of a "forced entry" so needless to say, she let him inside. I'm sure she had her reason(s) as to why but my thing is this: if he did it once, he's capable of doing it again. Now I'm not that cold hearted to believe that people can't change. But if someone tried to KILL me once there is no way if at all possible, that I would want to be in the same room with that person, without law officials present.

I'm not here to judge her decisions, I only read exactly what you read. This is a lesson for all of us to learn from and I hope that Peggy Keane is somewhere sharing her lessons learned as well. Once you've been involved with an abusive partner, it's hard work to physically, emotionally and spiritually disattach yourself from them. That's why the theory in domestic violence says that a victim will leave their abusive partner at the bare minimum of six times before they decide to leave the relationship/marriage for good.

There are cases where victims and survivors may have to meet at a public location with their abuser, but please take all neccessary precautions when doing so: create a buddy system and get law officials involve. This is the number one reason to me that the death rates in domestic altercations or battery cases continue to rise. I'll take the ambitious lawyer hat off for a second and just be honest. The woman usually gets killed whenever she decides to go back. Meaning, she's packed up her belongings or ran out in the middle of the night and did not have time to pack diapers or grab personal belongings. This is that moment where she decides to "go back" into the home and then the tragedy usually happens: he's awaiting her arrival and kills her.

In this particular case, he was inside the apartment with Keane and her friend. Ladies, whatever he has to say, let be either in front of the judge, police or outside of your door until the police arrives. This one decision to let him in almost cost her, her life! As a survivor, I am aware of my surroundings the majority of the time and exercise my rights to the fullest. Report any strange behaviors you see or hear. Always keep your Order of Protection handy, so that the officers can get right down to business once they arrive.

I hope this article has opened up your eyes and realize that domestic violence is a SERIOUS crime and we all can work together to BREAK THE SILENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!

HOPEFULLY SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS by JERYSE JACKSON

SORROW, PAIN, JEALOUSY, POVERTY, HOPELESSNESS, CORRUPTION, SICKNESS, HOMELESSNESS, DISRESPECT, JUDGEMENTS, HATE AND GREED.....y r our minds trained to believe NEGATIVE IS REALISTIC AND POSITIVE IS UNREALISTI .... Y WHEN SOMETHING IS GOOD HAPPENS IT IS SO UNBELIEVEABLE BUT BAD IS SO ACCEPTABLE .... STOP JUDGING... all homeless people r not crackheads, all mean people r mean for a reason find out y, say good mornin to a stranger sometimes u just might make their day, so what u aint rich, someone out there would love your job, dont b mad cuz someone looks nice, work on what makes u look good, y do people have to hurt each other to get ahead, Y DO WE WASTE SO MUCH TIME ON THINGS THAT DON'T MATTER, y dont we fall in love with someone else, y do we express how much we love people when they are no longer here.......MAKE UR TIME HERE IN THIS ATMOSPHERE WORTH SOMETHING

BREAK THE SILENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!!

WHAT TO DO? by FELICIA SIMPSON

What to do when everywhere I look, you're there?

In my thoughts, in the literature of my world.

What to do when the ounce of a moment, is returned back to you?

Time continues to move forward, but somehow your mane has remained still,

in place just as it was the last time I saw you.

What to do when your ocean colored eyes gaze into my soul?

I try to concentrate, focus and listen to your body language.

But nothing is available to this ice cold feeling inside of me.

What to do when that moment of persistence and excitement, is there no more?

Do I reconstruct my errors, blame you, be patient, tell me......please, what to do?

What to do when anger and frustration arises and there's no one to release this energy with?

Hold my feelings to myself? Fantasize? Plot? Dig deeper, spiritually?

What to do whenever I do decide to walk away from our dealings?

Hold on to that memory of your finger tips? Or hold onto one more second, and see if things change?

What to do when you love someone so indepth that you can't let go and become your own being?

Dear friend, the day will come when with each step you take away,

what to do, will no longer be a question.

What to do when you have embraced who you are and stepped from behind that box that sealed you and your life inside of it?

Each sunrise you enjoy the dew drops that whisper in your ear.

What to do when one day you look onward and peak at your future?

Do you see, YOUR dreams, YOUR goals and YOUR interests?

If so, humble yourself!

The question really isn't what to do? The beauty of the answer lies in your actions, to each time you have to ask yourself, what to do?

BREAK THE SILENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!!

I wrote this poem with thoughts of a victim of domestic violence on edge of leaving or for that survivor who often reflects back on that former life.

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WE ARE SO MUCH MORE Poem by Guest Poet YVONNE BAILEY aka VONIE

We are So Much More

than what people say.

We are so much more than a failing grade,

A bad hair day,

A missed opportunity,

A broken heart,

Or a broken leg.

We are so much more than people's perceptions and limitations.

We are so much more than the past we have survived.

We are so much more with each day that passes,

because we learn by and by.

We are so much more than what our eyes see,

and if we try we can be greater than any lie we've ever believed,

and greater beyond any of our dreams,

because greater is God who lives inside of those who believe-

We are so much much more!

1 John 4:4 - Ye are of God.....because greater is he that is in you, than He that is in the world.

Guest Inspirational Poem: BEAUTIFUL by YVONNE BAILEY aka VONIE

I woke up this morning, look in the mirror and I saw Beautiful staring back at me.

I asked Beautiful, "From where did you come from?" Beautiful replied, "I've been here all day."

You have seen glimpses of me from time to time, but you've never given me the freedom to hang around.

Instead you've held on to that ugly one named Fear and I cannot reside where Fear lives.

You have a confidence you've never known.

Surely it is because your faith has grown;

Certainly it's something God has done because now you feel you belong and you are strong.

So, you are seeing me really truly for the first time and I hope you like what you see, because I'll be around. I'll be around. I'll be around."

Ecclesiastes 3:31 - He has made everything beautiful in its time.

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FEBRUARY: TEEN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH

Teenagers can choose better relationships when they learn to identify the early warning signs of an abusive relationship, understand that they have choices, and believe they are valuable people who deserve to be treated with respect.

EARLY WARNING SIGNS OF POTENTIAL DATING VIOLENCE
• Extreme jealousy
• Controlling behavior
• Quick involvement
• Unpredictable mood swings
• Alcohol and drug use
• Explosive anger
• Isolates you from friends and family
• Uses force during an argument
• Believes in rigid sex roles
• Blames others for his/her problems
• Cruel to animals or children
• Abused former partners





PARENTS: COMMON CLUES OF TEENS EXPERIENCING DATING VIOLENCE

• Physical signs of injury
• Truancy, dropping out of school
• Failing grades
• Indecision
• Changes in mood or personality
• Use of drugs/alcohol
• Pregnancy
• Emotional outburst
• Isolation


Let's all join together and help BREAK THE SILENCE of TEEN DATING VIOLENCE. For a FREE PowerPoint slide presentation on Teen Dating Violence & HIV/AIDS, please email me at felicianewme@gmail.com

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