DON'T HAVE A VICTIM MENTALITY

I know it's hard to get out of life happiness, especially when you've been given so little. Let me introduce you all to some expressions victims of domestic violence often tell themselves:

"Nobody will ever love me again"

"I can't walk away, who's gonna take care of me and/or of my child(ren)?"

"Nobody was ever there for me"

"I've always been in abusive relationships"

"My foster parent(s) abused me too so it must be something wrong with me"

"I can't go back to school, he said my ideas were stupid"


If you made a mental note of checking yes to any of those expressions, it's time to refocus your mind and begin the journey of becoming a new you!

A victim sometimes gets used to the abuser downgrading, disrespecting, name calling and a host of other things done physically, verbally and emotionally to them, that seeing a positive outcome in their life is almost nonexitent. But thank God, whatever man(society) says, He has the ultimate say so over our lives. Start speaking life into your situations:

"Someday I WILL find love and happiness again"

"I CAN walk away from this unhealthy relationship so that me and my children will be safe and live a properous life"

"Unfortunately, nobody was there for me growing up, but I CAN help others get through their tough situations and become a role model to others"

"I've always been in an abusive relationship, but NOW is the time to break that cycle!"

"My foster parent(s) abusing me was wrong but I AM a WONDERFUL person inside and out!"

"I CAN go back to school because I have the GREATEST ideas to contribute to today's society?

Try putting positive notes in your purse/wallet, bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, desk at work or home, etc. Read those positive notes DAILY and watch you walk a different walk, talk a different talk, dream bigger dreams. I used to implement my positive notes in my prayers everyday too. Nobody wants to be around people who are always putting themselves down. Or try using an inspirational word everyday and use it in a sentence that describes you or your goals, visions and/or hobbies. For example here are a list of POSITIVE words:

INSPIRATION
LOVE
AFFIRM
COURAGE DETERMINATION HEALTHY SUCCESS PROSPEROUS
ENCOURAGE
POWER
BEAUTIFUL
ANEW
AWESOME
ACCOUNTABILITY
RESPECT
OUTSTANDING
GOAL(S)



Fix the things and areas of your life that you want changed. Rid excess drama, people, clothes and any other baggage that you are carrying around with you that's a roadblock to your breakthrough.

After you get rid of the negative victim mentality, BREAK THE SILENCE of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!